"Online Dating Is Not Just For mating"
Andrea Kon, relationship expert and Agony Aunt for 50connect, urges that the over-50s in particular should take note of a few simple precautions before embarking on a relationship online.
Take it slowly
Start things slowly and try to relax - chances are you will have spent many years away from the dating game so take a deep breath and try not to come across as desperate for attention.
The numbers game
When the time has come to chat over the telephone women should offer a mobile number only. A man, however, should be prepared to give out his landline number and if he won't part with it - don't take the relationship any further. At some stage, do post a photograph online and insist your new friend does the same - you want to know who you are meeting if you do intend to set up a face-to-face date.
Location, location, location
If you decide to meet face-to-face with someone, have access to independent transport - drive yourself, or ensure you have the number of a reliable taxi firm with you in case you need to make a quick exit. Meet in a safe public place and let someone know where you are going, what time you are meeting and what time you expect to be home.
Keep it to yourself
Never give out personal information on the internet. Always stick to reputable, safe and private websites, such as No More Frogs or 50connect, where you will be introduced to people you might like to communicate with.
Do your homework
Before taking an online relationship further it is worth using the service provided by 192.com, which gives you access to the electoral register for a small fee - this will tell you who a person currently lives with. If there is a man or woman at the same address, you might tactfully enquire as to whether your new friend has a parent still living at home, or sons or daughters over 18. Remember, anyone of the opposite sex registered at the same address could be a live-in partner - and cheating on the internet is very easy because anyone can be whoever they choose.
Beware of gold diggers
Steer clear of anyone who asks for any personal financial details. It is sad but true that many online daters fall victim to gold diggers so never reveal any private details concerning your income, your assets or your means of financial support. How To Find Love Mid-Life by Andrea Kon is published by Hodder & Stoughton, priced £7.99
For further information and advice about meeting somebody special online please visit:
http://www.50plus.singlescrowd.com
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